AGING IN PLACE:
HELPING YOUR LOVED ONES PRESERVE INDEPENDENCE IN LATER YEARS
Do you have an older friend or family member who is finding it more difficult
to manage daily tasks in the home? Do you worry about the health and safety of a
parent living alone?
Watch for clues that certain daily activities have become too difficult
because of physical or mental changes. Are bills going unpaid? Is the person
neglecting grooming or skipping meals? Does the home appear unkempt?
As abilities and strength diminish, families and other caregivers must often
help the older person obtain the assistance needed to maintain independence.
Investigate and suggest resources such as bill paying services, "meals on
wheels," lawn care, house cleaning, and window washing companies. Some elders
will prefer professional help to dependence upon family members.
Talking About Living Arrangements
Introducing changes to the person's living environment or considering a move
to more accessible housing is best approached long before safety issues become
paramount.
Too often, the individual is facing losses in other areas of life and
resistance to change is increased.
Introduce the idea of change through small, less intrusive modifications in
the guise of gifts or services when you notice a need. For example, while
replacing hard-to-reach light bulbs upgrade the wattage for improved
visibility.
If adaptations or repairs are needed such as adding railings on stairways or
replacing worn or uneven floor covering, etc., offer to help the individual make
choices and deal with contractors.
Modifying the Home Environment
The truth is that many aging people face limitations on independence in their
homes only because the design and arrangement of resources no longer meet their
needs.
Enlist the help of an occupational therapist to aid you in identifying ways
to improve safety in the home, to arrange resources, and to modify the
environment to help compensate for disabilities individuals may be
experiencing.
Occupational therapists and occupational therapy assistants are specialists
in helping people to deal with the effects of illness and injury on their
ability to manage daily life.
Introducing and Supporting Change
The therapist can also help you and the older individual explore implementing
changes in ways that may make them more acceptable.
For example:
Consider offering financial assistance. Many older people are highly
concerned about conserving resources for future needs for themselves or their
spouses. Others have little experience with current costs and may fear being
overcharge for materials and services.
Try building suggestions for change around "I" messages. "I worry about you
falling on those dark basement stairs. As a birthday gift, we are going to make
sure your stairs are safe and well-lighted."
The purpose of this fact sheet is not to offer medical advice. To discuss
your particular problem or condition, contact your primary physician. Materials
may be reproduced for purposes of education.
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